WHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE DIFFICULT?

RELATIONSHIPS, the word suggests so many thoughts inside us, isn't it?. Relationships work as a boon or bane in everyone's life. It happens to exist in everyone's life, no matter needed or not. Relationships could be of any type, like a mother and a daughter, a father and son, relationship bonds in our family, which we inherit since our birth. Some bonds or relationships are we ask for and some bonds are for which we never asked but received it.

"Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike."
                                                                    - J.K Rowling

I, sometimes think that are we not blessed, to be surrounded by beautiful and natural bonds? And then sometimes I get an answer that maybe you are lucky enough to receive such bonds naturally, a boon. But why do we search for another bond called "soulmate" as we grow up, and we become desperate to find that bond, that we sometimes even question our existence, if we lack to find them? Which is again a natural feeling but have you ever questioned yourself? Oh yes, I do question it.

Everyone out there keeps talking about finding or losing a relationship. And by relationship, I do not restrain myself to just soulmates bond. But have you ever experienced, losing a relationship with your family, like a real close to your heart ones. Yes, I know, that happens to hurt a lot. Saying about a bond between a father and a daughter is a pure one and which I adore it, like from my heart. As a daughter grows up, a father seeing his daughter all growing makes him sad and happy at the same time. People say as the daughter grows the drift between their bond eventually grows, but I, myself being a daughter never felt.

But there are situations in life we are away from the family, and we feel the immense need for their closeness but somewhere we are drifted by distance. There are situations in life when we see that we cannot uphold the bond in our family, the same as we use to but the void grows more and more and makes you think and sometimes overthink a lot. I get it! Trust me, I really do. 

What I think makes it difficult, is we are lacking the necessity of 'acceptance.' It seems as simple as I am writing in this blog. But the misconception we hold concerning for the beauty of solitude must be erased. Solitude is of immense pleasure once you do it for the need of your mental well-being, but this must not be a mechanism of drifting away from your loved ones. The art of acceptance, needed to be understood, and rather than just understanding shall also be applied in our lives. According to me, the major reason for the drifting of relationships of any kind is the level of acceptance keeps on degrading as years passed. No one happens to do it purposely but certain factors one of which is expecting to be the same person as before and not accepting the changing versions of oneself, make it difficult to be in one of a healthy relationship. Again to the point that relationships do not always revolve around soulmates. But where we find the presence of love, care, happiness, and safety there develops a relationship, which can be a friend, mother-daughter, son-father, husband-wife, girlfriend-boyfriend.

It is okay if things are going well in any of your relationships, just understand the situations of one another, and accept and confront what they mean to you.

Say 'Thank You' to the person who has been even at your lowest and say what they mean to you.
Don't worry. You are loved.